Timing is everything. Avoid initiating trying to remove the dummy during significant changes like moving houses, starting school, or the arrival of a new sibling. Choose a calm period when your child is more likely to handle the change smoothly.

If your child is of an age where they have a good understanding, talk to your child about why it’s time to give up the dummy. Use simple language and be positive. For instance, explain how they are growing up and don’t need it anymore. Reading books or watching shows where characters give up their dummies can also be helpful. At the Mulberry Bush we have ‘bags of support’ that are packed full of useful books and other tools to help support families during this transition. Please speak to your child’s key person when you are considering removing the dummy.

Instead of removing the dummy too quickly you can try a gradual approach. Limit dummy use to certain times, like bedtime and nap time, and slowly reduce it further. This can make the transition less stressful for your child, allowing the process to happen more naturally. Keep communicating this with your key person who will ensure that they are following your guidance to reduce the use of the dummy in line with your routine at home. Nursery is a busy and engaging environment and it can therefore be easier for children to be distracted away from their dummy during the day.

Helping your child find new ways to soothe themselves can enable them to find alternatives to their dummy. Introduce a cuddly toy, a special blanket, or encourage them to use words to express their need for comfort. This is empowering for the child to know that they have other ways to self sooth without their dummy. Physical affection, like extra hugs and cuddles, can also ease the transition. Our team will always be ready with a hug to help someone feeling sad!

Turn the process into a special event. Create a “dummy fairy” tradition, where the fairy takes the dummy in exchange for a small gift. Alternatively, have a “dummy goodbye” ceremony where your child can ceremonially let go of their dummy. This can be a symbol of growing up and moving into a new phase of life.

Expect some resistance and be prepared for setbacks. Stay patient and provide plenty of reassurance. Praise your child’s efforts and celebrate small victories along the way. Taking a dummy away can be challenging for both parent and child, especially when they are a little bit older. We are here to help you and your child through this so please speak to the team, we have supported many families and understand what you are going through!

Once you’ve decided to wean off the dummy, consistency is crucial. Mixed messages can confuse your child and prolong the process. Make sure all caregivers are on the same page and follow the same approach. We understand how hard this can be so please do speak to us about the challenges you experience. We can also help provide plenty of literature to help support your choice for other care givers to read.

It isn’t always easy! If your child is particularly upset or regresses and you feel that the time is not right for either them or you, it’s okay to take a step back and try again later. Pushing too hard can make the process more difficult. Give them time to adjust and try again when they (and possibly you) are more ready and you can achieve that all important commitment. Again, please discuss this with your child’s key person. They will be able to give you a perspective on how your child is managing at nursery.

Helping your child to give up their dummy is a significant step in their development. With patience, consistency, and a lot of love, you can support them through this transition smoothly. The team at the Mulberry Bush will be here to support you all through this. Remember, every child is different, so what works for one may not work for another. Trust your instincts and go at your child’s pace.